Sunday, May 27, 2012

Bewildered by my Church

When my us and was having his affair, I sought out the comfort of a priest while I was staying with his grandmother. The priest told me that I had better treat my husband well or he really would cheat on me. All I wanted my some comfort with faith, and I received a slap in the face.

Last week, I emailed my priest who baptized Michael to tell him I do not want to validate my vows in the church because Of what he did. Don't worry, my husband already told him what he had done. Anyway, after emailing him my decision, do you know he didn't write back to me?

All I expected was a "I'm so sorry for the pain you've been through and continue to go through. I will pray that God helps you find peace, and if you need anything at all, please let me know."

No, instead I get the feeling that I am being looking down upon because I can't forgive. I am the one in the wrong because I refuse to renew my vows two years after an affair that has altered my life forever. It just doesn't seem fair. It's definitely made me question a lot about the church.... which has always been a really huge part of my life.

1 comment:

  1. Hmmm, I don't know if you need to question the church or simply this individual. The Bible is clear that adultery is grounds for divorce. Do I believe I should forgive? Yes, 7 times 70 times...it's a long journey for me and I haven't quite reached forgiveness yet. My pastor gave much different advice than what you've been given. I can't imagine how that makes you feel.

    As far as renewing vows--no way...at least not yet. My husband asked me at about nine months out to consider that, and I shot it down. It is a beautiful thing that works for some. You'll know when and if it's the right thing for you to do.

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